What does the other side of a meltdown feel like when the person having the meltdown has autism? It’s never just about dropping an action-figure or not being able to press the button on an elevator wall. When they have a meltdown, it’s as if something of paramount importance has been taken, lost, or stolen.
Everything is too much and they feel overwhelmed and powerless. It’s not the action-figure falling on the ground, rather it’s a build-up of things that may have recently happened. It’s just, that toy was the last thing that person could control. Pressing that elevator button was one of the limited joys that person may have. They want interaction in their universe what ever that means to them and when it’s lost, it’s tragic. Often or always that internal struggle is invisible to all who witness the meltdown.